Similarly, a couple that only sees each other in short, intense bursts in between long stretches of non-contact (long-distance relationships and out-of-town hook-ups, for example) is probably going to want to have the DTR sooner – the intensity of that time together, coupled with the length of time spent when you together tends to necessitate making sure everyone is on the same page.To give a personal example: my wife and I had our DTR conversation the third time she came to visit…because we were spending weeks at a time together whenever she came to see me.
Sometimes the schedules of our day to day lives mean that we can’t see people as often as we’d like.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re not in contact with them.
If you’re talking every single day on the phone or over social media between the moments when your schedules line up, it moves the timeline for the DTR conversation slightly to “sooner”.
Straight talk: there are two phrases that a woman can say that will instill ball-shrinking terror in the heart of every man.
The first is “We need to talk.” The second is “Where do you think this relationship is going?