"In a military marriage, duty is first; everything else second,” said Perkins, who lives in Honolulu with her husband, an active-duty soldier in the Army, and their four children.
A misconception about military marriage is that it frequently involves infidelity, according to Perkins. while not unheard of, it does not happen very much at all." "The military is a cross section of our society, and just as in civilian communities, there are always promiscuous men and women," hd said.
"People sometimes assume that lots of military wives cheat when their husbands deploy," she said. But in my experience, it isn’t as common as military husbands having an affair with a female soldier while overseas." "There would be rumors about military wives hanging out at the clubs while their husbands were in the field," said Sgt. "The type of work soldiers deal with tend to attract partners that have similar attractions to duty, honor and commitment," added Phyfe, who served in the Army from 1980 to 1996 and now works with Vet Dogs, an organization that provides guide, service and therapy dogs to members of military with a disability. Her daughter was not yet 2 and she was pregnant with her second child when she found out that she would be stationed in England.
The entire family picked up and moved abroad and her husband became a stay-at-home dad.
“I had a squadron command that was very demanding, so [Tom] took up the slack at home," recalled Di Silverio, who has been married 19 years to her husband, an Air Force reservist."It was very challenging for him to take on that role with virtually no support system in a foreign country," she said.