The strong personality of many female officers and her existence in a cop's world adds complications.
Many female partners of male officers have found support in the company of each other. It takes a strong, secure man not only to be with a female cop but to run around and brag about it. He's my third husband and that's not untypical either." "They need to learn and accept that there are differences between men and women.
Unfortunately, those in relationships with female officers suffer from a lack of these resources. Women attach feelings to almost everything in their lives.
A lot of women don't understand that if they do something wrong at work and their sergeant yells at them, a guy cop will generally say, and learn from it or get angry about it, shake it off and move on.
With the majority of officers being male, much of the dialogue and resources available to police couples revolves around male/female relationships.
Although immensely helpful to the majority, the issues female officers face goes, many times, unacknowledged.