If a man shirks relational leadership prior to marriage, chances are slim that he will properly assume it after.
A man who wants to be godly and who means to prepare himself for a wholesome, meaningful relationship has his work cut out for him. Be prepared The Jewish young men of the Old Testament intentionally prepared themselves for marriage.
In addition to becoming skilled in a trade that would support a family, these men saved their resources in order to pay a dowry to their future in-laws, and generally built their own dwellings.
The latter was often done in the time between engagement and marriage.
Men are frustrated because they don't understand what women want from them.
Or, if they do have a clue, men feel the expectations are too high. How should Christian men and women move toward deeper friendship, possibly even engagement and marriage?