There’s just no way to tell who [email protected] really is.
Some cybersexers are indignant about this manipulation. For them, not knowing their cyber-partner feels exotic; knowing that this stranger may not even be who s/he is portraying is even more exciting.
Many deny it exists, preferring the fantasy that their cyber-partners are exactly what they claim. No one knows how cybersex affects its practitioners’ lives.
It provides an opportunity to experiment with new things–erotic power play, for example, asking for what you want, even using words like penis and vulva.
Those who have seen themselves through the eyes of only one sexual partner can sense what they might be like with others: they can shop around, expose themselves, be discovered and appreciated anew, be reassured that they’re not, say, frigid, oversexed, or “too” kinky.