Patti Stanger’s “Married in a Year” outlines a 12-month action plan for finding love and “sealing the deal.” Treating the art of courtship similar to a business negotiation, Stanger proposes no-nonsense tips for finding your perfect mate and not wasting time with someone you are incompatible with.She walks viewers through her steps to success including: In the dating detox period, Patti recommends finding your five non-negotiables.Determine what the five things are that you can’t live without.
According to Stanger, you can tell if he is the right guy if “he shows up on time, he calls when he says he will call and you get to be the Saturday night girl.” As for the early dating process, Stanger says, “Coffee is cheap, drinks are an audition, lunch is an interview, but dinner means business; the business of romance.” One major mistake I have made in dating is the flow of conversation.
While Stanger urges women to open conversation up for a “ping pong match,” I have often been told I come off as interrogating my dates and they feel like they are in an interview or legal trial.
I will have to take Stanger’s “ping pong match” metaphor into consideration for future dates.
One of Stanger’s 10 commandments of dating is “thou shall return calls promptly.” As a female business owner, I often prioritize my business over dating when an eligible dating candidate could be knocking at my door.
I agree with Stanger that men will perceive you as flaky if you do not honor your dating commitments or return calls promptly.