How to play: Pick a time interval—20 minutes, let's say (you can go with anything, so long as it's a change from the norm.) For whatever interval you choose, tease each other with kissing, touching, and other forms of foreplay.
You'll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. But no matter what, absolutely do not allow penetration until that much time has elapsed. Why: Not being able to see during sex has two major effects—it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability.
Why: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science—and a bare minimum as well. Then proceed to ravish him—slowly, recklessly, teasingly—however you feel like doing it. Either one is a powerful aphrodisiac (hello, just You need: Four men's neckties, or more elaborate restraints available at sex toy stores or online; a bed, preferably one with bedposts.
"Time Bomb" refocuses you on the pregame show, the part that used to be so much fun before you lived together. You need: A scarf, a man's necktie, or a blindfold. How to play: He ties your wrists and ankles to the bedposts and has his way with you.
You'll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. Why: I have to admit, this is my favorite sex game—and I never even tried it until I was in my late 30s. Variation: If you don't have bedposts, you may be able to tie your wrists to some part of your headboard or tie them together over your head or behind your back.
I find it incredibly erotic to be completely powerless, to be the absolute center of his attention and to have no responsibility for or power over what happens. You can get extra-long ties and be tied to the legs of the bed.